Tuesday, July 20, 2010

The Bachette, The Weekend and The Due Date

first up...the bachette

b and i laughed and laughed and laughed when frank was telling his sob story to chris harrison. because frank is a loser. and we didn't buy his fake tears at all. douuuuche. he clearly got exactly what he wanted...a free trip to europe and tahiti and air time to promote his writing career.

but then ali showed up and that was seriously heartbreaking. i felt hugely uncomfortable watching that whole, sad display. she totally took the high road and didn't have a major freak out like i probably would have done. frank is a HUGE JERK. even still, it was painfully obvious that 1-ali loved frank and was 100% going to pick him and 2-that she has no intention or desire to pick roberto or cape cod. i really think ali is going home alone. and roberto will be the next bachelor. and this show continues to hit new lows every season. drama is all good and fun. laughing at the freaky attention whores who go on these reality shows is also all good and fun. hurting people on national television for ratings is lowlowlow. how low can you go abc?

second up...the weekend.

we decided to celebrate our last childless weekend {please let it be our last childless weekend} in style. b took me to ruth's chris and let me order whatever ridiculously overpriced extras i wanted. i love my husband. we had strawberry margaritas, appetizers, sides and steaks and dessert. then i spent the rest of the night crying on my couch because i had never been so uncomfortably, disgustingly full in my entire life. then i started having contractions that felt a little different then all the regular, braxton-hicks i've had in the past month. we started thinking that maybe this was it! it wasn't.

third up...the due date.

it's today. no baby at this point obviously. it's so weird to be suspended between excitement at meeting this little girl, fear at what is to come and being in such extreme discomfort that i'm ready to take on any pain if it will end the suffering.

if anyone out there could let me know when i'm going to go into labor i would really appreciate it. for reals though, when did you all have your first babies in relation to your due date? and what are your feelings on inducing labor through stripping your membranes? {that sentence was gross.}

17 comments:

the Baker 4 said...

Yea the Bach is really bad this season...and probably wont be good next season but yes we will all watch it next season, even if we say we wont...As far as inducing...I was started with Renae, Zak and then Alex decided to come on his own...It didnt bother me with being started but alot of woman would never do it again once they had it done once. Good Luck.!! if you have anything planned that is when she will come :) Cant wait to meet her.

PS (go ask grandma) lol

Melanie said...

I had Grace at exactly 36 weeks and it was a total shock. We weren't ready for anything. I'll be 36 weeks on Thursday and in a way I'm secretly hoping he will come early like Grace. I too am so uncomfortable but waiting another 4 weeks?? Blah. Good luck with everything. You will do great! Just remember that it's all worth it.

Melissa Stringham said...

My first came 8 days before her due date. Unfortunate for her since that means she came on Christmas Eve.

My second came a day after his due date. I had my membranes stripped the week before. Obviously it didn't work because it still took him a week to come out. Some people say it hurts to have it done, but I didn't think it hurt...it was just uncomfortable. From what I know, there is no evidence that stripping your membranes really works. In my opinion, it can't hurt though...

According to some medical professionals, the only ways to induce labor (without actually inducing labor) are lots of walking (to put pressure on your cervix) and sex (the prostaglandins in semen can soften your cervix). But in my experience, baby will come when it wants to come no matter what you do. So hang in there!

naezandkidz said...

LOL. love the bach update...I was watching it last night when you texted me and was thinking about how maybe the drama from all of it might put you in labor...(we wish)...I was started with Addy the day before my due date and I NEVER would get started again!! I was in labor for 22 hours...Cooper came on his own a month early thou...My water broke with him, didnt have contractions til on my way to the hospital...so hopefully this little girl with come on her own sooner then later :)

Katrina said...

happy due date! as you know stripping membranes worked for me. but it will only work if baby is ready. hope she comes soon!

Tiffany said...

You are so funny. I had both of my kids by appointment (induced), so I don't know what to tell you. You know, other than good luck and have a blast.

(And one other teeny, tiny bit of first-time-mom advice: If you're planning to breastfeed, try it, but don't kill yourself if it doesn't work right away. You've got a lot going on with baby #1 and it's not worth freaking out or forcing it if it isn't working naturally. Be the boss of your own boobs and don't let anybody impose their will or philosophy onto you.) That's all.

Tiffany said...

P.S. And by "Induced" I mean Pitocin. My membranes weren't stripped, to the best of my knowledge. They were good little Mormon membranes who would not participate in such inappropriate shenanigans like stripping.

Tyler and Megan said...

Anything called "stripping your membranes" is something I would stay far away from. ew. haha

I am pretty sure you will have her by Saturday because I will be on trek so I wont be around. So just to spite me I'm sure she will come then. So no worries. ha.

Ali said...

I was induced with Eliza four days early due to a gallstone/gall bladder issue. I wouldn't have given the green light if my Bishops score wasn't at a ten. I was dilated to a four the morning of my induction and fully thinned which made me a prime candidate. Anyway, the experience was totally wonderful, complicated-free (I'm being serious).

Henry came two weeks early. My second experience giving birth was likewise awesome. Stripping of the membranes certainly won't hurt your baby, but it won't guarantee her arrival. If I was sitting past my due date, I'd TOTALLY ask the doctor to do it.

My recommendation to bring on labor (here comes the over share) have 'intimate relations' with your spouse.

Chris and Annalisa said...

I was 4 days overdue with our bambina. My doctor stripped my membranes on a monday and she was born on saturday...so probably no relation there (they say if it's going to send you into labor it will happen within 24 hours).

I walked and walked and we also tried the "relations" thing as well, but nothing really helped. My body wanted to go into labor on its own.

My advice is to try to keep yourself busy! If you have a task (knitting, crafting, sewing, whatever) then you won't have time to feel sorry for yourself that you're overdue.

My favorite part of labor (can you have a favorite part of labor?) was the *very* moment she was out, all of a sudden the weight on my abdomen and ribs was gone, and I could BREATHE! It was the best feeling in the whole world. :)

Good luck!

Ruth said...

I hate to say it, but I was a week late with Mason. I did everything but drink castor oil. Walking, running, sex, and membrane stripping (twice). When I say I was a week late, they induced me at 41 weeks. I was dilated to a 2 and 80% effaced. If you don't feel like having sex, walking, or getting your membranes stripped don't do it, because I can attest that it doesn't work. :{ At least with me. Poor Mason was SOOOO late he didn't have an ounce of that white stuff on him (forgot what it's called, vernix?) and his poor little skin was cracking! He was very very late. :(

On to the Bachelorette... I hate Frank. There is no way she would possibly want to pick him? I never felt a connection with them? I think Roberto was going through a heroine withdrawl in Tahiti. He was so sweaty and eye sunken, it sorta tripped me out. I am in love with Chris. He is so sweet and goofy and obviously really loves her. If she breaks his heart it will be gut wrenching to me. I think he would be a better Bachelor than Roberto because he deserves love. If love even exists on the Bachelor? Probably not?

I hope you have your baby soon!! You must at least have B put a one line post that she arrives when she does!!

Katie A. said...

I was 3 days late with both. Just keep in mind, they are a WHOLE LOT easier to take care of when they are inside of you. That is probably not what you want to hear!

Anne, Ryan, Emily and McCoy said...

Emily was born 2 1/2 weeks early and McCoy was one week early so I don't have much experience wih late babies. I've heard stripping membranes is painful and doesn't work but I've also heard that it doesn't hurt and does work so it's kind of whatever you want to do. I think walking really helps so hit the mall. I took Emily to the aquarium and had McCoy the next morning. Don't be scared though. I love labor and delivery - but I also get epidurals :) Good luck! I can't wait to meet her.

Dustin and Whit said...

coming from someone who thought she was in labor so many times she was in and out of the hospital like 6 times before it was the real deal, I am probably not the best person to be handing out advise! Halle came on her due date, but I was in labor like 4 days leading up to it so everyday that went by that she wasn't born was torture. I begged my dr. to strip my membranes but he wouldn't because I wasn't dilated or effaced. I agree with Melissa, they kind of just come when they are ready- unfortunately! I can tell you this, sooner than later that baby is coming! Good Luck!!!

Marcus and Amy said...

Oh I can remember the last week I was pregnant. It is suffering, you are right! And its all a waiting game!
I am not one to ask either, I had to be induced cause of pre eclampsia, it didn't work and a week later I was induced again that ended in a c section and will have to have repeated c sections now.
But now having been through it and if I COULD do it again MY WAY, I would have waited it out. As long and as hard as it was to wait, I would do it so that my body would have gone into labor on its own!

I have heard that walking and "boom boom" really work the best! :)

Paula said...

I agree wholeheartedly with everything Tiffany said.
1) Olive was 10 days late.
2) I was induced...s.l.o.w.l.y
3) i had 2 stripping bouts (oh yeah) and nothing but some major contractions and bad cramps. All membranes are different - that's right - say that aloud.
4) Don't let the Breastfeeding Nazis get you down - if it works then great - if it doesn't then don't sweat it!
The fact is - she HAS to come out.

Trav and Lizzie said...

You are AMAZING!
Hope everything is going okay, you are SO close!
No advise here... obviously.
Just-- push??
haha, retarded.